Me And My Boy
Today is Friday and I am thankful for that so here is another addition of Fatherhood Friday. If you have not been head over to Dad-Blogs and read other great posts by cool dads and moms.
This week I want to discuss my 6 year old son Shaun. Why is it whenever I need to run an errand and ask my son if he wants to go with me so we can hang out he always asks me where I am going? I know the answer to this because over time I have set a bad precedence. He knows if he goes with me places like the grocery store or Target he will most likely get something like a doughnut from the grocery store or a candy bar or something like that from Target. I do not mind spoiling my children but for some reason it irritates me when they expect something. Nine times out of ten if they just go with me with no questions asked they probably will get something but not Shaun he asks right before we leave the house “Where are we going”? Now if I say the grocery store but I add “You are not getting a doughnut” (because I know that is his next question) he will tell me never mind he doesn’t want to go. What the heck? What ever happened to going for the ride just to go? I used to love to just get in the car with my dad when he had places to go because we got to spend time together. I am not saying Shaun doesn’t want to spend time with me I just think all he is thinking about is what he can get. I wish he could understand if he just went for the ride and didn’t ask for something he would most likely get something but again he is 6 so I guess he doesn’t quite think like that yet. Maybe one day he will want to go with me just to spend time with me and I am sure he will one day when he gets a little older. Happy Friday to you all and have a great weekend.
This week I want to discuss my 6 year old son Shaun. Why is it whenever I need to run an errand and ask my son if he wants to go with me so we can hang out he always asks me where I am going? I know the answer to this because over time I have set a bad precedence. He knows if he goes with me places like the grocery store or Target he will most likely get something like a doughnut from the grocery store or a candy bar or something like that from Target. I do not mind spoiling my children but for some reason it irritates me when they expect something. Nine times out of ten if they just go with me with no questions asked they probably will get something but not Shaun he asks right before we leave the house “Where are we going”? Now if I say the grocery store but I add “You are not getting a doughnut” (because I know that is his next question) he will tell me never mind he doesn’t want to go. What the heck? What ever happened to going for the ride just to go? I used to love to just get in the car with my dad when he had places to go because we got to spend time together. I am not saying Shaun doesn’t want to spend time with me I just think all he is thinking about is what he can get. I wish he could understand if he just went for the ride and didn’t ask for something he would most likely get something but again he is 6 so I guess he doesn’t quite think like that yet. Maybe one day he will want to go with me just to spend time with me and I am sure he will one day when he gets a little older. Happy Friday to you all and have a great weekend.
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However you can get them to go with you to spend time...just do it..because by the time they are a teen, you probably will hardley see them. I'm sure he'd rather hang with his friends. :)
That's just the nature of a kid. It's all about them.
My 7 year old is the same way. Always expecting to get something every time we go to the store. Needless to say, I do most of my shopping while he's in school :)
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Buying time with a donut seems better than no time at all. He sounds like a normal kid to me. My nephew loves Wal-Mart because he always gets something.
My son always expects to get something when we go somewhere. I started making him bring his own money to spend.
I remember when I was little, I loved walking anywhere with my aunt because we'd do a hop-skip sort of walk that I found a lot of fun. Maybe instead of a doughnut you can find something else to entice him with...though at least it's a doughnut and not a new toy or cash. LOL
Happy FF!
It's totally horrible that my 3 year old does this, too. He ask where we're going and when I tell him, he immediately analyzes the situation to see what he wants to ask for. Drives me nuts!!
When you find the secret with Shaun please pass it on to me for Jake. :-)
My kids are exactly the same way, but after reading the comments, I, ONCE AGAIN, agree with Otter. Buying them a donut is a small price to pay for quality time. I always find other ways to bond as well...sing a song in the car, whatever. Next time they just might want to come along because daddy is fun to go with.
don't let your child become narcissistic. have you seen the recent article? lol anyways...i think that sometimes you should have him go with you regardless. no asking and no getting treats. he has to realize that sometimes it's not all about him. just my two cents :) i tell my girls NO a lot at the store. i'm used to it. hehe
My kids only like going places that sell gum. I made the massive mistake of letting them buy gum WTOM (with their own money), not they expect it every day.
Sounds like he is growing up! My kids figued that trick out at about that age..it rolls around again where they want to go just to be with you. Either that or they just get old enough to make you THINK that's why they are coming and you end up buying the damn treat anyway!
Perfect, considering I came home with groceries just last night, said, "Guess what Daddy has?" and our almost 3 year old says..."A Present for ME!"...loved your post...can so relate LOL
Oh yeah... When they get "stuff" often enough, they expect it. My mom is frequently getting my kids little gifts "just because". It's gotten to where whenever she comes over, one of their first questions is, "What'd ya bring me Grammy?". It makes me crazy, and it's annoys her sometimes too. Kids... =)
Our son is the same way and he is now 8 lol! It's a kid thing, I know it's irritating but really just enjoy the time he spend with him because one day he's gonna say no "I wanna go w/my friends" and that's it. :(
OOps hit submit before I was done sorry.
hang in there, he's always going to remember the rides he took with you and that you made him feel special by buying him a doughnut and spending time with him. He'll remember that. :)
Happy weekend
My dad never gave me jack, but then again, I didn't like to go places with him and he never asked.
I know Bea is gonna work her daddy every time we go somewhere. Sigh.
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